I joined Club 30 last week and before you ask, no I don't feel any different. I also don't own a house any more, I have no children, I'm not married, I've just opened a brown envelope with a £45 parking fine and I haven't achieved all the things that I thought I would have by this age but you know what... I'm probably the most content I've ever been. Turning 30 seems to be one of those daunting ages people reach; a big milestone where you are made to feel as though you should have achieved a certain level of things by this point.
It's strange because turning 25 seemed to be a much more daunting year for me. I'd reached a quarter of a century and the things that popped into my head when I reached this age were... I don't have a house, I've got an Interior Design degree and I still work in retail, I'm not engaged yet, I don't feel ready for children and one of the scariest thoughts were...
Oh my god, if I was to enter X factor this year I would be in the over 25's category!
I think turning 25 triggered a bit of a quarter life crisis for me and it's funny when I look back now at some of the things that I would worry about. It seems so petty now but it's hard not to feel judged by your peers, be influenced by the media or society when we are constantly fed things about the way we 'should' live our life.
I've learnt a few things over the past few years which have helped me be the person I am today. By no means is my life perfect and I've had a lot of ups and downs like everybody else.
Here are a few things that I've learnt and would have told my 25-year-old self.
Being a little selfish is ok
It's just as important to put your own needs first and be a little selfish sometimes. Of course it's important to compromise but if you're forever trying to people please, you will end up sacrificing your own dreams.
Everything always works out in the end
You may lose a job you love, but you WILL get another one that is much better, and if you haven't yet it doesn't matter because your job isn't the only thing you should measure your success on. You may feel like you are too old to start dating but you are never too old to find love. Life surprises you with struggles sometimes but there is always something good to be found in a bad situation.
Don't compare yourself to others
People's lives may appear perfect on the outside, but you don't know what goes on behind closed doors. Don't compare your life to another's public show because the majority of the time it's not always as it seems.
Stop caring about what other people think
There will always be people who have an opinion that doesn't always align with yours or you will often be judged by the decisions you make in life but don't let this affect your choices. Most of the time people won't even be thinking about you anyway because they have their own problems to worry about.
Don't be afraid to show your vulnerabilities
Everyone makes mistakes or has a bad day. You are only human and it's ok not to be ok sometimes. Don't ever be embarrassed about your feelings. Just because you don't do well at something, it doesn't mean you are a failure or that people will think bad of you.
Money doesn't buy you happiness
Don't be influenced by money when choosing the right job. The highest paying job doesn't always give you the most fulfilling life. The relationships with the people in your life are the things that will bring you the most happiness.
Don't believe everything you read in the news
The news isn't representative of everything that is going on in this world. A large proportion of things you read are exaggerated, twisted, edited snippets of a much bigger story. As cynical as it sounds, news is often written as opinions disguised as facts so be wary of what you believe!
I know this post is a bit deep but every now and then I like to do a little reflective blog post. It's always good to reflect on things each year because sometimes you don't realise how far you have come.
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